It can be frustrating and hurtful when someone denies saying something that you know they said or wrote in a text message. While I can’t know the specific situation, here are a few possible reasons why someone might behave this way:
- They are gaslighting you: Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which a person manipulates someone else into questioning their reality. They may deny saying something or pretend like they never did to make you doubt your memory or perception of events.
- They are forgetful: It is possible that the person genuinely forgot that they said something or sent a particular text message. This could be due to poor memory, being distracted at the time, or simply not paying attention.
- They are defensive: Sometimes, when people say things that they regret or that they know may upset others, they may deny saying it as a way of avoiding confrontation or criticism.
- They are trying to avoid accountability: If someone said something hurtful or inappropriate, they may deny saying it to avoid taking responsibility for their words.
Regardless of the reason, it is important to communicate your feelings clearly and assertively. Let the person know that you remember what they said or wrote and that it is not okay to pretend like they didn’t. If the behavior continues or if you feel unsafe or manipulated, it may be necessary to set boundaries or seek support from a trusted friend or professional.