If you have a borderline personality disorder (BPD), you may feel like you need to be in control of every conversation. You may want to avoid talking to people who have BPD because you don’t want them to know how you feel about them. This is called “avoidant communication,” and it can be very difficult to break out of it. The best way to do this is to find a therapist who can help you learn how to communicate with other people in a way that doesn’t cause you to feel so overwhelmed by your feelings that you can’t think clearly. If you’re not sure where to start, talk to your therapist about it and see if he or she can recommend a good therapist in your area. Many therapists specialize in working with borderline people, so you might be able to get a referral from one of them, or find one who is willing to work with you on a case-by-case basis. It’s important to keep in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to this problem and that it will take a lot of work on your part to figure out what works best for you.
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