Narcissists don’t have a sense of emptiness. They have an emptiness that they can’t seem to get rid of. It’s like they’re trapped in their head, and they have no idea what to do about it. I think that’s what makes them so difficult to deal with because they are so self-absorbed and so disconnected from the world around them. When you’re in a relationship with one of these people, you have to be very careful about what you say and how you talk to them. If you get into a fight with them, they’ll say things like, “You’re so mean to me,” or “I hate you.” They’re not thinking about the consequences of their words or actions, so it can be hard to tell if they mean what they say or not. But if you can get past that, then you’ll be able to see that there’s a lot more going on inside of them than meets the eye. You’ll start to understand why they act the way they do and why it feels so good to have them in your life.
… I’ve been in relationships with narcissists for a long time now and I can honestly say that I have never had a bad experience with any of the people in my life who have been with me for more than a year or two. The only negative experience I ever had was with my ex-husband, who was a very controlling and controlling person. He was always trying to make me feel bad about myself and make sure I didn’t do anything that would make him feel good about himself. That was the only time I felt like I was in danger of being hurt by him, but I never felt that way about anyone else in the relationship. I found that the more I got to know him and his family, the less he seemed to want to hurt me. So I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be with someone who is controlling or controlling-type people. There are people out there who are just as bad, if not worse, than those types. What I am saying is that it doesn’t matter what type of person you are or what kind of relationship you’ve had with him or her. Just be aware of your feelings and what’s going through your head and try to figure out what it is you need from your partner for you to feel safe and secure in that person’s presence.